Defiant Ones, The
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IMDB rating: 7.70 Plot: Joker Jackson and Noah Cullen are two convicts on a chain gang who hate each other. After a truck prison accident, they flee and are pursued by the police. While they’re chained, the two are dependent on one another. When they eventually get rid of their chains, their hostility has been changed into fellowship and respect. |
Actors: Curtis Tony,Poitier Sidney,Bikel Theodore,McGraw Charles,Chaney Jr. Lon,Donovan King,Akins Claude,Dobkin Lawrence,Bissell Whit,Switzer Carl ‘Alfalfa’,Coughlin Kevin,Smith Harold Jacob,Young Nedrick,Drama,Crime,Thriller,
Y cant she just accept that I CANT change me?
I seem to have one of these personalities that only I like. No one else likes my personality. I’m introverted. I do my own thing. I don’t get along with others. I can co-exist, but I just cant seem to do anything right. After trying so many times, I stop, n may even rebel. Although, now I’m proud of my defiant stance. I shouldn’t b, but I am. All I hear from mom is how anyone who’s ever lived with me hated being with me. Ok, so I’m the problem. I get it. I’ve tried to change for her, but failed miserably. She even married me off to a guy we both liked, in an effort to change me. I tried, but I couldn’t. I couldn’t b the submissive doormat type. I’m never good enough. so now, I’ve decided, I wont b good either. It’s not a good solution, but it’s better than giving ur all, n still being told ur good for nothing. I know trying isn’t doing, n u want one who can do, but all I can do, is my best, n when my best isn’t good enough, y erode my self-esteem by proclaiming mass dislike toward me? I’ve internalized already. Now I’m externalizing. I’ve prayed to change myself totally so all would approve of me. But for now, I guess god likes me the way I am. I know I can do little things, but she wants a BIG overhaul, so I’ve stopped doing the small stuff too. It’s wearing me thin as well. Idk what satisfaction she gets out of destroying my self-esteem n making me angry, but since I like who I am, I guess that’s her main problem. thanks for answers.
prem-im not married. Does that change things?
sofy-I did consult a dr, he wont give me meds. But some much needed advice. Although, he didnt really suggest any solutions to my problems, just told me to do what I’m doing.
wow. i just realized that im introverted. you should find a submissive type guy to be YOUR doormat lol. i also realized that abbreviations dont make a paragraph any shorter
Rollr D | Jan 18, 2010
Whether yu are introvert or extrovert no one bothers about it.I advice yu to be beside yuself and yu need not change for the sake of yu mom or anyone as yu are married and mature enough to know what is good or not.If yu mom or anyone tells to change see that there is any worthy to chagne if it is ok otherwise ignore all and move on.
prem | Jan 18, 2010
u r full of stress pls b calm n consult a dr i think.
sofy | Jan 19, 2010
Hmmmm. Ur mother is trying to change you but you cant…
Somethings are in-build in us which cannot be changed, what effort you may try !! Like a person has high temper. You try to work & think that temper will completely go way, this is not possible. But you can make effort & try to control temper on petty/unimportant issues.
If a person in introvert and you try to make him such that he becomes extrovert this is not possible. However an introvert person should make efforts & be soft, polite & good character with people who you talk with & to the people who approach you. With this even if people who do not talk with u much, they will develop a feeling of comfort/goodness with you.
There is no harm in liking yourself, but at the same time we should like others also. Be at ur character best when people approach you. You dont have to be good to people just for the sake that in return they should be good to you. I know this is hard.
Think of developing good character just like an ornament which we wear to look good & presentable. Just like good clothes, makeup ornmanets makes the outer self of a person charming. So are inner qualities also important to improve our beauty. People will not appreciate you if they see you in shabby clothes w/o your hair done & have not washed your face for ages & with long & dirty nails & smelling. Similarly bad character will also cause dislike for u in others.
Hope I m not sounding like ur mother… 
:)
Cheers…..
shaikhm | Jan 20, 2010
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